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Poll: What Counts As Cheating?

Infidelity can take many forms, where do you draw the line?

Everyone has their own definition of what behavior they're willing to condone before it crosses over into infidelity. What do you think counts as cheating?
Flirting. Making someone else think you're available when you're actually in a relationship is cheating.
7% (53 votes)
Dirty Text Messages, Emails or Cybersex. Even if there's no physical contact you're still engaging in a sexual act.
20% (144 votes)
Crushing on Someone Else. Your partner should be the only person you think about romantically.
1% (10 votes)
Fantasizing About Sex With Someone Else. Fantasy is a powerful thing--how do you think <em>The Secret</em> works?
2% (16 votes)
Kissing. Lip-locking with someone else? You've crossed the line.
26% (190 votes)
Watching Porn. You shouldn't need it when you have a partner.
2% (12 votes)
Lying About Spending Time With Someone Else. That guilty conscience is a sure sign that you're being unfaithful.
11% (81 votes)
Developing an intimate emotional connection with someone else. Emotional affairs are still affairs.
30% (215 votes)
Total votes: 721
Can you relate?

Discussion

Airen Married polyamorous, committed, intimate, free
Posted October 6, 2009

There are hundreds of ways you can cheat your partner or partners out of the intimacy that being n a relationship demands. This poll doesn't go far enough! Some of the examples are a bit far out there but I can see how they might be construed as cheating...but fantacizing isn't cheating and it's very natural, unless it leads to dissatisfaction with one's partner.

I'd love to know what idiot or agency is spreading the rumor that more women are saying no to sex...that's a tired and silly stereotype. Cheating isn't about sexless marriages and very few examples of truly sexless marriages leading to cheating can actually be found. Cheating is a much more complex problem than a simple lack of sex...

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wiscfire69 Starting Over My BF's my Wife
Posted September 8, 2009

I can relate for sure. My wife of 10 years (in the relationship 12) I have found out has been cheating with the same man for almost 8 of the 10 years we have been married. She does not think it is cheating because she has NOT had sex with him. But she lied to me about where she was going, spent numerious weekends with this man. Took trips with this man and also ended up getting arrest for this man. We are currently separated and will get a divorce, she has a NEW boyfriend, in california yet, we are from wisconsin. She said she loved me completely during those years, I do not think so. I feel betrayed and ashamed.

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KarenP Married
Posted August 21, 2009

I agree.. there should be more than one on this poll!!!

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Fashay Married I don't understand him
Can't Relate - Posted August 15, 2009

More than one vote for me

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ashbabe2009 Taken happy, laughing, love, taken.
Posted July 26, 2009

there are like 3 that go along the lines of cheating. I myself consider flirting as cheating for the fact that you are making someone feel like you are available and your not. Then it just goes up from there.

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George Vosch Single
Posted June 28, 2009

WELL I WOULD SAY WHEN ONE OR THE OUTHER HAS SEX..BUT HAVE FOUND OUT MORE WOMAN ARE SAYING NO TO SEX, SO I GUESS MEN HAVE TO GET IT SOMEWHERE ELESE..
SEXLESS MARRAGE WILL NEVER WORK...

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BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted May 24, 2009

Argh! I want to be able to vote for more than one on this poll. These things aren't mutually exclusive or in an order of degrees of cheating (whatever that would be).

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