"It's true that white women don't demand much from black men, but I think that's because they've been brainwashed by media and society to think that black men aren't capable of much. From dating white men I do believe that there is sometimes a lack of expectation because there's a lack of experience. Very few white people live in a black world. If they did they might be more demanding because they'd know what we're capable of." --SOLI, 46, Biracial, recently single
Do you believe that black men are insecure or abusive and if so why?
"Everyone is insecure. Black men are vulnerable because their self-esteem has always been under pressure and their masculinity is based on self-esteem so they're extra sensitive to anything that threatens their sense of who they are." --STELLA, 46, Black, divorced
"We've all heard the 'talk' about black men but we must realize that some of our men will be unreliable/players/abusers, etc. Just like white men." --MARCIA, 51, Black, single
Is it hard for you to find black men/women to date?
"I'm married to a black woman. And, it wasn't difficult to find a black woman to date. Black women can be a bit bossy and, if there was no father in their lives, a bit unrealistic as to what makes a real man." --MARCUS, 39, Black, married
"It's never been hard for me to find pretty, smart black women to date. It puzzles me that so many college educated men date outside their race. I don't have a problem with interracial relationships, but I do have a problem with black men who won't even give black women a chance." --MICHAEL 44, Black, single
Why do black men date white women?
"Some black men get an ego kick out of dating white women, especially if they are halfway decent looking. But plain black women don't have the same opportunities with black men that plain white women have." --STELLA, 46, Black, divorced