Bar hopping and making out with preppies maximized my time during the sticky summer months following college graduation. That June, I'd shoved boxes of clothes and the complete series of Sex and the City into the 500-square-foot apartment I shared with my girlfriend, Kelsey, and started my grown-up life as New York's newest Samantha.
One morning after hooking up with a pair of roommates, Kelsey and I shamefully took the bus home to save money. We rode uptown between old ladies dressed for church still drunk in our matching outfits: a man's sweatshirt, boxers, fishnets and our shiny heels. We giggled over bagels—recapping the details of our alcohol-induced night like my favorite New York quartet would have.
More from YourTango: 8 Subtle Signs You (Or A Friend) Are In An Abusive Relationship
After a decade of watching TV shows like Sex and the City and NBC's new Lipstick Jungle, where women struggle to have it all, I was convinced that Prince Charming would show up in my early thirties once I'd already established myself. At 21, I was determined to double-book dates, clink martini glasses with my girlfriends and live like Holly Golightly (the movie version) without the cat.
More from YourTango: The One Radical Rule That Saved My Relationship
As the oldest of three, I'd always been an independent workaholic. Family friends knew I seemed misplaced in our small town outside of Boston; a euphemism for "your daughter is too loud and opinionated." At 16 I told my parents I was moving to New York City. I couldn't be an actress in Andover, Massachusetts. They agreed so I could study theater at Barnard. I parlayed one summer into four hot seasons of interning, working and frolicking through the city.
In New York, I was never embarrassed by my individuality. I bounced around the East Village singing along to my theme song, "La Vie Boheme." I wore tight black clothes, drank coffee, chain-smoked and had my heart regularly broken. I sat in Shakespeare and Co. for hours reading entire plays, sifting through pictures of old New York and flirting with those who did the same.