Dirty Talk Saved My Relationship

It was several years into my current relationship when sex started becoming a mundane activity that was scheduled rather than spontaneous they way it used to be. Quite frankly sex had become about as exciting as chopping broccoli. That all changed one night when I heard something at the beginning of our normal ritualistic once-a-week sex that perked up my ears and libido.

Any talking we had ever done during sex was more or less directional or something along the lines of "is that it, baby?" or "I can't do this with the cat in the room!" We just did not communicate. Then I heard the words that changed everything, "get over here and do as I say!" I was then talked through every step of the session with language that was definitely racy but not disgusting, there is a fine line. What we did physically didn't really change much that night, but the tone was definitely different and it was far more exciting. I felt like someone else and with that came the freedom to act like someone else.

I had seen couples talking dirty on television or in movies but I never for a second thought we were one of those couples. We were just a regular suburbanites with jobs, kids and a mortgage, not some young sexy Hollywood couple. Thank goodness none of that mattered, it actually made it all the more exciting. That first night was amazing and it led to sex that wasn't on the schedule, a lot of it! Our new sex life with dirty talking incorporated into it had an edge unlike any we had ever experienced before. For the first time in years I really wanted to have sex. Dirty Talk Dos and Don'ts

After a few weeks I had grown more and more comfortable with it as part of our love making and wanted to push the envelope a bit further. It was my turn to be the dirty talker. The first time I tried it was hard not to laugh at myself. I had trouble saying the things I thought would be a turn on without giggling or becoming embarrassed to a certain degree. Fortunately this was not held against me and within a week or so I got more and more comfortable with my role and started to really get into it even surprising myself with the things I said.