Orgasm For An Hour (Yes, We're Serious)

Touch yourself—on the clitoris or elsewhere—to feel the most pleasure you can at that moment. Once you've reached your favorite spot on the clitoris, usually by pulling back on the hood with your palm, it is best to choose one continuous type of stroke, using your index or middle finger on your favorite spot. For most women, that favorite spot is the upper left quadrant of the clitoris. We recommend a short up-and-down stroke.

If you have another favorite area, it is fine to touch and peak yourself there, but we would like you to at least check out the upper left quadrant of your clitoris at some point during this exercise.

Some women may be used to masturbating with a different type of stroke or with a vibrator. This new up-and-down stroke on the left side may not, at least at first, feel as good as your old way of doing it. The goal of this masturbation exercise is pleasure, and although we do want it to feel as good as possible to you, we're also asking you to explore and possibly to find a new and better way to do it. Vibrators, although efficient in the production of an orgasm, tend to numb your clitoris to the touch of your own or someone else's hand and to any kind of stimulus except a vibrator. Therefore, unless you are married to your vibrator and do not want to have other lovers or to experience the most pleasure from your own hand, we think you're best served by moving away from your reliance on it.

In addition to doing the stroke described above, feel free to touch any part of your vulva or clitoris that feels good to you. If you never have masturbated or are used to a vibrator, your clitoris and entire vulva area may not feel much sensation at first. There are a lot of nerve endings in this area, however, so if you put your attention on the stroke, you will be able to feel something. It may not be as much or as intense as you had hoped for, but approve of any sensation that you do feel. Keep doing the same stroke over and over, as long as it feels good.

When you have had enough of one stroke, take a break or start doing another stroke. The moment that you sense that the next stroke will be even slightly less exquisite than the last, you have peaked, or reached the highest point in that orgasmic cycle. At this point, experiment with deliberately taking the orgasm down a notch or two; you do this by changing the stroke.

Feel free to do whatever you can think of that feels good. Check out different parts of your clitoris. Check out touching yourself with different speeds and different pressures. This is your time to research the entire gamut of possible sensations. Find out what you like best. You can play with your labia and perineum while simultaneously stroking your clitoris. Play with yourself as long as you like. You are not rubbing to set time records, but for the fun of it and to learn how you like to be touched. Peak yourself often, and see if you can take yourself higher than before.

As you do this exercise, it's likely that you may feel more—or at least differently—than you did when you masturbated in the usual, "tensed-up" state. Remember that you're learning about a different kind of orgasm: an EMO. Notice and approve of every stroke, and see if you can feel any contractions or other signs of orgasm. Check to see if you can feel that first stroke and be in orgasm from the start of the exercise. Remember that the immediate goal is to feel pleasure, not to put yourself under stress or to imagine that you have to feel "a certain amount" or else feel like you've lost. The ultimate goal may be to have a long and intense orgasm, but the best way to get there is with small, approving steps.

 

Drs. Vera and Steve Bodansky have been students and teachers of sensuality and relationships for over 25 years. Their workshops are based on their expertise in the field of extended orgasm and they have trained hundreds of men and women in the practice of EMO. Vera and steve have been married since 1983 and have been working together exclusively since that time.

Their most recent book, Instant Orgasm, was released in May of 2008.

For more information or to contact them, visit www.extendedmassiveorgasm.com.