4. Plan for financial obligations. There should be clear agreement about what happens to the finances during a separation, with equal sharing of resources and children adequately taken care of. Running two households is likely to be more expensive. How the finances will work should be agreed upon before the separation takes place so that the person left with the children, in particular, does not bear the brunt of any financial burden that might ensue.
5. Decide initially if you will remain intimate. Whether you will have sex and if you will spend time with one another is paramount. The couple should reach a clear agreement as to the amount and intensity of intimacy between them during the separation. It is better not to engage in sexual interaction while separated mainly because it tends to cloud the issues and will delay the conclusion, especially if one person is still getting what they want without having to sort out any issues.
Separation is likely to be more successful in its objectives if it is regarded as such: a clear break from the usual home routine to give the parties time to sort out intractable differences and key problems between them. Once it is treated as a continuation of the relationship, or as a time for both parties to act like single people, not much can be achieved from that. There will simply be more of the same behavior without any conclusion and divorce is then likely to follow.