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A Grown-Up Imaginary Friend

A Grown-Up Imaginary Friend

If you can't be with the one you love; love the one you dream up.

It's great to have options when it comes to dating. But how far do single people take it when it comes to leaving options open? Prostitution? Dating dolls? Scouting random partners on public transportation?

Yes, that may be taking it too far, but playing games is always fun. A friend and I play "Subway Sex," when we ride together, where - in transit - we count how many people on that subway car we would potentially sleep with. And then there's some type of asinine point system. Sure, it's silly and irrational, but what else are you really going to do in the subway? Cell phones don't work.

As silly as my game might sound, people really let their imaginations run more wild than mine. Pretend sex is one thing - but a pretend boyfriend/girlfriend? Looks like the Pleo isn't satisfying people enough. Is the real thing just too much trouble?


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