7 - 13 Minute Sex Most Desirable
Sexperts rate intercourse times as too long; too short or just right.
Stamina is a highly regarded trait in our society – be it mental, physical or sexual in nature. Two Pennsylvania university students decided to poll sex therapists and researchers to determine what length of time in the sack is generally regarded as enough, or too much.
Based on the responses received from thousands of patients, a survey of 50 psychologists, social workers, physicians, nurses and marriage/family therapists reported lengths of time to match four descriptions of intercourse duration: too long, too short, adequate and desirable.
Duration of one to two minutes was deemed "too short" and three to seven minutes "adequate", which seem to match society’s perceived amount of time for good sex. But, surprisingly, most researchers assigned the title of "desirable" to an experience lasting anywhere from seven to thirteen minutes. And "too long" was defined as anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes.
Researchers hoped the results would help realign the public's sexpectations, "thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions."
"Man men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse," researchers said. "With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage [people] with realistic data about acceptable sexual intercourse."
Discussion
AS LONG AS YOU BOTH GET OFF WHO CARES HOW LONG IT TAKES ! ! 10 SECONDS, 10MINUTES, 10 HOURS...........................WHAT DIFFERENCE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Really? I've missed entire movies during sex. Not foreplay, sex. Granted, it's not every time, but that time period just seems so short. Maybe it just seems so long because of the mind timewarp thing that happens. For a while it's like the rest of the world (including time) doesn't exist at all. I guess I'm going to have to get teh old stopwatch out and time the ole' boy...
Fer God's sake! Who can keep a head long enough to TIME it?? Just enjoy what you do and screw the damn clock!! If you're not satisfied? It's not long enough. If you are satisfied? It's just fine. (Good lord! Talk about overthinking!!)
I surfed the web and they don't seem to be including foreplay in the time limit. So it's not as bad as it sounds.
On the other hand, I think it's crazy that they want to actually put some kind of weird time limit and say over ten minutes is "too long." Now couples aren't supposed to like intercourse? Not that everyone has to have sex for more than 15 minutes every time, but can't they want it?
I also think the therapists are putting men first here to a ridiculous extent. They want men to feel okay about themselves, so 3 minutes of intercourse is "adequate." But really, I don't see how it can be "adequate" for the woman.
"The research revealed that the average sex therapist believes an "adequate" length for intercourse was from 3 to 7 minutes; "desirable" from 7 to 13 minutes; "too short" from 1 to 2 minutes and "too long" from 10 to 30 minutes." http://www.news-medical.net/news/2008/03/05/35942.aspx
To each their own. My SO really doesn't like any actual intercourse lasting more than 15 minutes, and I usually time out between 15 and 30 minutes, so we make do. I just can't see foreplay as being part of this equation...its just no fun without warming her up just right, no matter how long that takes.
I don't believe it. It sounds too short to me. I'd have more confidence if someone surveyed men and women and asked them what they really wanted. Sex therapists are giving their opinion of what's best because they don't want people to feel inadequate. But if people start thinking 10 minutes is too long, we're all going to be in trouble.
