When we were dating I got to pretend he had only good qualities, so why not do the opposite now that we’ve split?
And my favorite, just for good measure: Set aside 15 minutes each day to cry
This tasty tidbit comes from Mike Riley, co-author of How To Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days. Mr. Riley recommends that recent breakup victims “flush” their feelings for at least 15 minutes every day. If you find the tears just won’t come, he suggests you “stand erect, place your hand above your heart, close your eyes and take short, sharp breaths while listening to music that brings on sorrowful feelings. Just be careful not to hyperventilate.” (Seriously, that’s part of the quote.) I’m all for crying when you need to—letting yourself feel overwhelmed for a few moments does wonders for getting it out of your system. But actually forcing yourself to cry? That’s messed up.
If any readers out there want to share their own rules, I’d love to hear them. And if you’ve broken any (like I have), ’fess up so I know I’m not the only one committing breakup misdeamenors.