Fighting Fair II: Absolutely No Absolutes

Last week, I kind of skirted the fight:  I wrote about avoiding the fight by “discussing” fair.  I called it Civil Dialogue.  Indeed, if we speak more civilly to each other – even when we are annoyed – during the discussion of a thing, then odds are, we may not even get into the fight.  However, for whatever reason (and oh boy there are many, aren’t there?), couples will continue to fight.  So:  Fair Fighting.  Is this a pipe dream?  I mean come on, when you’re fighting, you’re angry/hurt/pissed off/etc….how can we be expected to fight fair under such stress?