I received a few calls and emails about last week’s blog. Most people thought that it was an interesting notion, to think that as a partner it is our duty to admonish each other. One gentleman said he would prefer not to have his wife riding herd on everything he does, that he doesn’t want to be married to his mother. I guess I didn’t explain myself well enough for this guy. Fortunately, most people “got it”. Anyway, a couple of these phone calls turned into full blown talk-fests in which the caller and I delved into the topic even further. I would like to share with you some of what crystallized from those conversations.
"Over drinks at a bar my date revealed many interesting details about himself. He used to live on 'the streets.' He claimed to have 'beat Spina Bifida.' He had had a fiancé in Japan who was open to him dating women while he was in the States. After all those amazing revelations I let him know our relationship would not be romantic. As we walked out of the bar he appeared to be suffering from some sort of stomach cramp. He told me he suffered from severe IBS and desperately needed a private bathroom. I have family members who suffer from Crohn's disease so I felt very sympathetic to his situation. I offered to let him use the bathroom in my apartment. After he had finished using the bathroom, he says, 'I know you said we could just be friends and that's fine. But, I was wondering if I could just watch you pee before I leave. I only want to watch.' P.S. — I did not let him watch me pee." -Miranda, 33