This week, I had planned to write more on my list of what to do to recapture that “lovin’ feeling”, but have been side tracked. By a mattress. Let me explain.
First of all – a mattress is of the ultimate importance in a marriage. Actually, when you come down to it, it is important in life. Period. And I hate to say this, but, it does become more important as we, uh…age. In general, getting a good night’s sleep is imperative to a healthy body and outlook. More and more, doctors are discovering how sleep deprivation contributes to a whole host of ailments.
With all of this said, along with the fact that I am not exactly a young woman anymore, I am able to rationalize spending a lot of money on a “sleep system”. And this is exactly what is needed to get a decent bed these days. It is now an “investment”. With new innovations like latex mattresses that form to your body and the air-filled, choose-your-firmness, beds, price tags have sky-rocketed.
A few years ago, when I was having a lot of trouble with my back, we looked at this investment as purely medical. Perhaps the right mattress would save me from another surgery was the rational then for the outlay of cash.
So, after talking to current owners who loved theirs, Steve and I bought the mattress system with all of the great commercials. We thought we were the PERFECT candidates because Steve likes his support firm while I like it soft.
However, we just never fell in love with it (like most people do). There isn’t anything obvious to point to, we both sleep pretty well and aren’t sore in the morning. It just didn’t have that “lovin’ feeling” for us (there, I got that in this week!). But WHAT COULD WE DO…this thing cost a hell of a lot of money. We couldn’t rationalize getting a new bed.
AND THEN, a few days ago, a friend of mine (Pam) mentioned that she and her husband were looking into getting the number system. AHA! Have I got a deal for you, girlfriend! We quickly worked out the details, and I was suddenly in the market again for a mattress.
I didn’t waste any time. I immediately went shopping. I was lucky enough to find something I liked right away, and miracle of miracles, Steve liked it too. It is the old spring style standard, and it is cushy yet supportive. When I laid on it, ahhhh and hmmmm just floated out of me. (Really – people were looking at me.) Nevertheless, we decided to take some time to think about it. After all, it was a lot of money.
So……the next day….. I went back and bought it. Steve was working the whole day so I thought I would surprise him and have it bought and set up by the time he got home (what was I thinking!?). It took about 6 hours of hard labor, (ironically) a sore back, and help from my kids to accomplish it, but we did it. When Steve got home, he could not believe it. We both laid down, happily sighed and got down to some serious snuggling.
We have slept on it for two nights, and WE LOVE IT. Somehow this new bed is more conducive to cuddling. I guess we like to be the same “number”; we don’t like to feel that there is anything separating us in bed. Unlike most, we like to feel when the other person moves around. We like bouncing just a little bit.
Just as importantly, the bed frame we bought doesn’t squeak! Our old bed did, even after Steve added a ton of screws (ha! the problem and the solution, all in one) and a few bolts, which my daughter Sami and I had to remove during the bed change-over (Mom, why did he use so many screws? What’s the big deal if it squeaked a little?). I didn’t tell her that it made secretive love-making impossible.
The squeak-less bed has opened a whole host of opportunities to us. I highly recommend that if you have a squeaky bed and children, go out and buy a new bed frame tomorrow. It may just change your life.
Quite often when I purchase as quickly as I this, particularly when so much money is involved, I feel a guilty. Not this time. Not one bit. In fact, I don’t think I have ever been so pleased with a purchase. We are happy campers.
This concludes another view from my married life.