Quiz yourself: How much to do you know about relationships?
1) The number one predictor of divorce is:
a) Ongoing disagreement over money and financial issues.
b) The habitual avoidance of conflict.
c) Yelling and screaming during fights.
3) Couples that are constantly yelling at or complaining to one another are doomed. True or false?
4) When discussing a problem or disagreement, it is important to:
a) Keep feelings out of the discussion, and try to stick to the facts.
b) Be sure you can accurately state your partner's position, including his or her feelings and fears about the issue being discussed.
c) Focus on practical solutions—on solving the problem. Too much discussion can sidetrack you.
5) Extramarital involvement occurs in happy marriages and is not necessarily a symptom of a distressed relationship. True or False?
6) After the birth of the first child:
a) There is little impact on the marriage; the quality of a marriage depends more on issues of couple compatibility.
b) The marriage enters the "warm glow" stage and stays there for several years.
c) Marital satisfaction drops.
7) Couples should try to resolve most of their disagreements. True or False?
1) b. Which is sad, because we often avoid conflict precisely because we are so much in love, and we believe disagreeing or fighting might cause a divorce. We're aware that there has been a 50-percent divorce rate for 30 years, and we’re scared. But the way to have a happy marriage is to learn how to handle the inevitable disagreements that are part of every relationship.
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