Enough Is Enough!

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Not much, right? You probably wonder what's wrong with that person and might even assume that it's their own self-judgment misplaced onto you. If you're not judging yourself, someone else's judgment won't stick to you. So if you feel rejected, you must be rejecting yourself in some way. If a guy breaks up with you, then maybe you weren't right for each other. But if you pile on self-criticism such as telling yourself you're ugly, unlovable, too fat, not smart enough, or too old, you are not only inflicting cruelty on yourself, you are lying to yourself about why the relationship ended. Relationships don't end over any of our self-judgments in particular. They may end because we are self-judgmental, making it hard for someone to love us when we aren't loving ourselves. So, whether you're in a relationship or single, stop rejecting yourself, stop coming up with reasons why someone shouldn't love you. It's a waste of time and saps the love out of relationships with even the most potential.

3. Give yourself the love you want to get

Once you stop rejecting yourself with self-judgments, start loving yourself actively. Do more of what you enjoy. Challenge yourself intellectually, emotionally, physically, spiritually. Take risks that will build your self-esteem. Notice whom you admire and realize that "if you spot it, you got it." You couldn't see this in someone else if it weren't already within you. Nurture that part of yourself. Become your most extraordinary self and it is guaranteed that others will want to bask in your radiant glow.

4. Release your Resentments

Underlying every resentment you hold towards an ex is a regret you are holding against yourself. The wife who resented her husband for buying a new car without asking her was actually regretful that she didn't have enough self-worth to let him know that she deserved to be a part of such decisions. The woman who resented her ex for cheating on her really regretted not confronting him sooner when her intuition told her something was amiss. So uncover your regret because you can do something about it: You can give yourself compassion for having been too afraid to stand up for yourself. Then make a commitment to being more authentic and more courageous now and in the next relationship. The icing on this cake is that, by being more authentic yourself, you will invite more authentic people into your life.

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