Do you two ever talk about your on-screen love scenes?
Oh, yeah. Alicia [Alice Braga, Smith's costar in his upcoming film I Am Legend] was the first person Will had kissed in a long time. He was like, "It was so weird. It's been 10 years since I kissed someone outside of you like that!" But it's not bad at all. Trust me, I've kissed tons of guys on-screen!
So those love scenes that fool the rest of us don't affect you?
No. I wish Will would do more! People want to see that.
What's it like for your family now that your son Jaden is acting?
It's so amazing. It reminds me of when we lived in an agricultural society, when it took the whole family to pitch in for survival. And now, to have our son learn what we know and to take him into our spaces of how we feed the family—that is a gift. We're happy to pass on something that we love and something we know how to do.
Has it become more difficult for you and Will to preserve the privacy of your relationship?
We're pretty private people. We do our best not to create too much scandal! I don't know how much longer that will last.
What's the craziest thing you've ever done for love?
I jumped off a roof into a pool while we were in Jamaica, not knowing I could have broken my neck! I was very out of my mind, and Will was mad at me. He was sitting in a lounge chair when he saw me fall out of the sky screaming, "I love you, Will!" He tried his best to stay mad but he couldn't. He cracked up.
Do you ever get mad at each other?
We learned very early in our relationship that we are two volatile people, and we could not argue like that. And now we've gotten past that point. We disagree, but we don't argue.
You're the frontwoman for a metal band, Wicked Wisdom. What motivated you to pursue music?
I wanted a platform where I could express the other personality I have inside of me—the person who needs to be free and be angry and not be politically correct at all times. The one who can growl, scream, and jump around. One of my fans nicknamed me "the screaming banshee." [The stage] is a complete freedom space where I don't have to be perfect. On the red carpet, there's this need for perfection.
Do you bring that part of you to your relationship with Will?
Absolutely. I had to acknowledge that aggression is not something to be ashamed of. I also realized that trying to kill one aspect of your personality will kill the rest of you. The Jada that Will met is the chick people see on stage with the band. The Jada you see on the red carpet is the person he helped me to become. I don't think I'd be the woman I am today without his love and vision.
How have you helped shape Will?
I anchored his life in a way that allowed him to expand. I gave him the confidence to be what he always envisioned himself to be. Will was also challenged by the idea of fatherhood... he was so young when he had Trey [his eldest son, from a previous marriage]. I helped him see the strength and beauty in what he had to offer his children
Do you have a guilty pleasure love song?
Every single love song Prince has ever written! [Breaks into song.] There is not a song that that man has put out that I don't love.
Do you have a relationship role model?
Both sets of my grandparents. It seemed like they were married for hundreds of years! That's been my staple data—when you get married, it's for life.
What do you do to be good to your body?
I really eat well; I try not to eat a lot of sugar. It's more for my mind than it is for vanity. I need to stay healthy because I'm always running. Your body is your instrument to do everything, so you have to take care of it.
How do you pamper yourself?
Doing nothing is a complete luxury. It gives my body time to chill.
What is the biggest compliment Will has ever paid you?
He thinks that I'm one of the smartest people he's ever met. He's met a lot of people, and he's quite the intellectual, so that is a huge compliment.