Threesomes: A User's Guide
By Ky Henderson. Posted on .
Hollywood rarely depicts sex accurately: near-instantaneous, always-simultaneous orgasms? Sheets that conceal only naughty bits? But on screen threesomes get at least one thing right: the act is often hot and the aftermath is often messy. Everyone betrays everyone else in the movie Wild Things. A friendship is doomed in Y Tu Mamá También. And in HBO's Entourage, Turtle and Drama must deal with the heterosexual male nightmare of having "crossed swords."
Of course, that’s not to say all threesomes lead to disaster. Inviting someone else into bed can be a positive experience for all parties, but the presence of a third person does magnify the hazards all couples must face—from feelings of jealousy and self-loathing to unpleasant realities like sexually transmitted disease and social stigma. Portrait Of An Open Marriage
People fantasize about threesomes for any number of reasons: the opportunity to totally make out with another person without cheating, a chance to share something exciting and taboo with their partner, or the sensation of an extra pair of hands, eyes, and… other things in bed. But no matter what your motivation, the high stakes require that you pursue a threesome the right way for the right reasons.
"Plenty of men and women fantasize about threesomes—yet that doesn't mean they should actually have one," says advice columnist and sexologist Logan Levkoff. "Some couples are quite capable of handling it, but the majority of people can’t because emotions get in the way."
