His Take: I handle the frantic morning shift better when my wife is away—I feel like the boss. When she's home, I feel like her employee. Most men chafe at being treated like employees by their wives, and most women expect the house to be run according to their rules. It doesn’t work. Better to divide the chores, picking those things you each naturally prefer. Arrange it so that one of you runs the mornings and the other the evenings. Make a chart if you have to. Allow him to have pride of ownership of his responsibilities. And if it sounds like you're back in kindergarten, you are. Put a gold star on his forehead (yes, that’s a euphemism for something else).
Cathi and Dan offer advice on multitasking for couples.