. I want a divorce.” Run screaming—or learn to accept.

“If you’re getting a lot of good things from the relationship, too, you can make the choice to accept the person, including that behavior, as part of your life.” And love is all-or-nothing: Chances are, when it’s for good, you’ll take the good—with the laugh.

Men vs. Women: A Battle of the Irks
He hates when you call him “honeypie” in front of his friends. You go nuts when he scrapes his fork against his teeth. Why? According to Cunningham’s research, particular allergens cause the different genders to bristle more. Below, the his-and-hers divide:

Men can’t stand it when she:
• Morphs into a Primp-a-Donna who obsesses about having every hair in place.
• Croons to him in baby talk.
• Criticizes him constantly.
• Gives him the silent treatment.
• Issues ultimatums: “If we don’t visit my best friend in Florida, we’re never going on vacation again!”

Women cringe when he:
• Appears to lack ambition.
• Stares at or flirts with other women.
• Starts arguments over seemingly insignificant issues.
• Forgets important dates, like birthdays and anniversaries.
• Chooses “the guys” over her: “No, I can’t go see the play. We moved fantasy football to Thursdays.”
A bane to both sexes? Cursing, belching, and gas.

*Names have been changed to protect the innocent.