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Does Size Matter? And Other Sex Myths

Think you know everything about the birds and bees? Think again!

Here's everything you ever wanted to know—but thought you were too old to ask.

According to Laura Berman, PhD, author of The Passion Prescription, even sexually savvy adults have questions about penis size (it might matter), sex after marriage (does it stop?), and a man's sexual prime (hint: younger is not always better).

"Sexually speaking, people are on a constant quest to know if they are normal," says Berman. So get out your notebook—anda ruler!—and see how your knowledge stacks up.

Does Size Matter?
There's no definitive, er, yardstick that can be used to measure sexual performance—but size does come into play. "Studies show that sexually satisfied women perceive their partner's penises to be large, while unsatisfied women see them as smaller," says Berman.

But those who are not well endowed can still score in bed. "Men on the smaller side become proficient in other kinds of foreplay, so this helps women have orgasms," she explains. "And in any case, not all women can achieve orgasms from sex."

Anthropologist Helen Fisher, PhD, author of Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love, asserts that size is not as important as men think it is. "There are many things other than size that make a difference to a woman—for example, education, health, and careers. Men worried about size need to find out what their partners like, and figure out the right ways to move."

Is Masturbation Bad For Your Relationship?
By now, we've shed the silly suspicions that masturbation causes blindness or hairy palms. But in a committed relationship, it's still sometimes considered taboo.

Solo sex shouldn't be classified as cheating, according to Berman, since it's not harmful to a relationship unless it's compulsive or used as a substitute for intercourse. In fact, it can even help your sex life.

"Women who self-stimulate have higher levels of sexual satisfaction, desire, and interest," Berman says. "It's the 'use it or lose it' phenomenon." Masturbation can also help with sexual dysfunction: women who can't orgasm can learn a thing or two from self-pleasure, while men who ejaculate prematurely can use it to practice control.

Do Single People Have More And Better Sex Than Married Couples?
Experts say that neither group comes out on top. "The optimal amount of sex happens when you live with someone," says Edward O. Laumann, author of The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States, and a sociology professor at the University of Chicago.

"Frequency decreases strongly as you have more partners." As for quality, research has shown that married people also have higher levels of sexual satisfaction than singles, says Berman. "Trust and a connection allow you to safely explore and meet your sexual needs," she adds. "But after 10 years together, satisfaction can decline. So they're not much better off than singles, on average."

Can you relate?

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nubiancoco Single
Posted March 3, 2009

I DONT THINK SIZE MATTERS. I HAVE BEEN WITH MEN WITH LARGE PENISES, I MEAN LARGE AND THEY DIDN'T HAVE A CLUE.

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karenanne61355 Married
Posted March 1, 2009

As much as I love my husband going down on me......and I do ALOT........I would be frustrated if he were not as thick as he was. There is no more intense orgasm for me than when he "fills me up" and work in unison to reach the heights of pleasure.

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Posted February 21, 2009

25% of women think of sex everyday they must be very mature people surveyed then cause I dont know any women that arent thinking about sex at least everyday. These women must be the over 40 brigade

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tweety Taken
Posted December 11, 2008

Sometimes size does matter, depends on how hot and bothered you are. After having sex with the same person for a while and as long as your enjoying it , it wouldn't matter anymore.

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Posted January 30, 2008

I think its an insecurity that probly every dude has , i say" get over it guys"and stop all the pointless worrying. Your size (if on the shorter side)does not matter.Ive had,well we'll say 'my share' and my advice is to always smell good... women love the clean,showered,shaved guy.If your concentrating on your "lil man" she"ll pick up that vibe instead of catching the "Oh baby vibe",trust me!!!

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Posted January 16, 2008

sex is an important part in ones life

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Posted January 9, 2008

7 years is a long time for many before they start to look in other directions, but if you are really content then there is no need for this kind of behavior.

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Posted December 20, 2007

Sex is meant to be celebrated. The benefits, of which there are many, are just icing on the proverbial cake. So, instead of coming up with numerous reasons why you cannot have sex try coming up with just one reason why you can. You might say because it feels good or because you want some. I like making love with my match on Motorcycle frequently, so does my biker match, we met each other at mybikerdate.com. In the end, it doesn’t matter as long as you’re enjoying your body in every safe way possible.

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