From The New York Times
By Tara Parker-Pope
Arguing is an inevitable part of married life. But now researchers are putting the marital spat under the microscope to see if the way you fight with your spouse can affect your health.
Recent studies show that how often couples fight or what they fight about usually doesn’t matter. Instead, it’s the nuanced interactions between men and women, and how they react to and resolve conflict, that appear to make a meaningful difference in the health of the marriage and the health of the couple.
A study of nearly 4,000 men and women from Framingham, Mass., asked whether they typically vented their feelings or kept quiet in arguments with their spouse. Notably, 32 percent of the men and 23 percent of the women said they typically bottled up their feelings during a marital spat.
This is a pretty informative study. In every couple’s life, they are bound to fight. And fight. They have a very interesting sidebar about what men and women argue about the most. It appears that 9% of men in Framingham, Mass. feel that they are not getting enough sex. The whole ‘bottling up feelings’ thing is known to cause problems, some digestive, some circulatory and some miscellaneous. This, apparently, is particularly problematic for women during arguments. Let it all out, girl. That’s what arguments are for. Just keep the violence to a minimum and genital-related insults to yourself. Very interesting.