A team of researchers from Iowa State University studied 72 couples and found that the wife's view on how to solve problems within the marriage or the home took precedence over the husband's opinion and he was happy to accept that.
"The women were communicating more powerful messages and men were responding to those messages by agreeing or giving in," Associate Professor of Psychology David Vogel, one of the leaders of the study, said in a statement.
The study was conducted by questioning the 72 couples who had on average been married for seven years with all the couples in the sample relatively happy in their marriages.
This seems like the kind of advice we could expect from Dr. Bill Cosby (or Dr. Heathcliff Huxtable, for that matter). “You see, Theo, you have to agree with the woman. It doesn’t matter if she’s right or wrong, son. You smile and nod and go along. That’s how you get along. Flizzme flazzme and the jello pudding is so good to eat.” It’s pretty incredible that these relationships all classify themselves as ‘happy.’ Is it possible that all of these men just agreed with their wives that the relationship was ‘happy’? Maybe the key isn’t equal partnership in all decisions, but rather assigning decision-making authority based on competency. We wonder if this is just cultural? What would be the results of this exercise if it took place in New York or London or Beijing?