Sad? Upset? Survive Your "Emotional Hangover"

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The best ways to deal with love's emotional and physical hangovers.

Talking about negative feelings is perhaps the best medicine to prevent them from electrically and biochemically disrupting the right brain's circuits. "If you respond to the emotion that occurs, it will stop, and you can go on with your life," says Dr. Mona Lisa Schulz, a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of Vermont School of Medicine and Maine Medical Center, Portland. "But if you don't, the emotion hangs over the next day, gets hung up in your right brain, and—fester fester, rot rot, simmer simmer—seeps from your right brain into your body." Female Vs Male Brain: Is There A Difference?

Since when do women have trouble talking about their feelings? They don't, says Schulz, unless they fear that being assertive could jeopardize a relationship or a career. She believes that women have been socialized to dilute strong emotion, to make it more palatable to others so they won't lose love, support, or financial safety.

The cure is to "unlearn your programming," Schulz explains, by speaking up with the right balance of assertiveness and emotional intensity. If you can't talk directly to the person with whom you were arguing or disagreeing, seek out a trusted friend, colleague, medical professional, or adviser who can offer support, or just listen.

Other remedies include physical activity, which helps to balance the brain's biochemistry; treatments like massage or meditation; keeping a journal of your emotional experience; and writing an "anger letter" (even if it never gets sent).

Regardless of what remedy you choose, trust your intuition about what you’re feeling, and why, says Schulz. Otherwise your health is "under the influence" of your emotions.

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