The Dirty Dancing Guide To Romance
Men could learn from the moves of Dirty Dancing's Johnny.
Elevated above and beyond anything she's dreamed of, truly glowing with pride and confidence, nurtured and encouraged all along the way by her lover and trusted friend. Any man who has seen the face of his woman watching this scene will want to see that look again—with himself, instead of Swayze, as the cause.
So what’s the secret? Arthur Murray? Maybe. But if you're not ready for the "first lesson is free" route, here's the big-picture takeaway:
Hold her. Hold her tight, hold her lightly, hold her passionately. Never think your touch is old and unwanted. When you stop holding her, you start missing even the easy steps together.
Let her go. A woman is nothing if not contradictions. She’ll need to take some solo steps, and it will help to know you're in the wings, cheering her on, watching her make her own moves from time to time.
Dedicate yourself to getting it right. These "man/woman" steps get tough sometimes. When either of you makes a mistake, even a pretty bad one, move on together. Try real hard not to make it again.
Lift her up. When the rest of the world tries to defeat her, remind her through your indefatigable confidence in her that she's a goddess who can soar above mere mortals.
Look her in the eye. Fancy footwork only gets you so far. Gaze deep into her eyes and silently tell her, "I want to take these steps with you for the rest of my life."
Renée A. James lives and works in Allentown, Pa. She writes a weekly column for The Morning Call in Allentown.
Discussion
Thank you Patrick Swayze and Dirty Dancing for reminding women how fantastic, and perhaps even essential, it is to have a man who can dance. That little hip thrust Swayze did as he grooved down the aisle in the last dance sequence of the movie? Near pornographic.
A man who can move his hips on the dance floor is usually killer in the boudoir!
I liked the article gals. Just wanted to drop you a line to let you know that my fiance and I are practicing the "Dirty Dancing dance" as our wedding dance. We are even taking lessons at Arthur Murray. BUT what I need help on is on are the types of dances in that final scene. Does anyone know all the "types" of dances? I believe it has: Mambo (basic) with a Mambo promenade, Polka (basic) (i think)...this is where I need help. Can anyone fill me in with the rest OR good resources on how to choreograph the dance? Arthur Murray will get the foundation, but we still need work.
Your help will be much appreciated. Thanks
kevin swayze
Dancing is the only acceptable public forum for "sex" with strangers! Sex doesn't have to be vaginal or oral or anal penetration, either. I get more from dancing with ten strangers in one night than with one man in bed all week. A PhD friend of mine once tried to measure various levels of blood hormones associated with arousal and passion, and found that dancing evoked more of these 'mones and in greater concentration than when two people were having traditional sex. That was enough for me to go out on weekend nights and do the Tango!
in the purifying vibrations of love, the couple has arrived when they can dance to intimacy. the silence serenates both ears and their bodies move self-directed in unison. dancing is a gift from the gods: even the spirits that lack rhythm grow into the one set by the loving partner.
I love dancing as a form of foreplay. If you are out, partying, dancing with someone you are truly "feeling" dancing can definitely lead you straight to the bedroom.
And some guys got it long ago. A local paper reported on a ballroom dancing event that attracted people of all ages and quoted a 74 year old man who had been dancing for over 50 years: "I learned early that women love dancing. And I love women."
I think dancing with someone you love is the most sexy,exciting and romantic thing a man and a woman can do out side the bedroom. OOOh So much fun!!
Dance movies are so sexy..so why dont all men realize that dance is a big sexy turn on
