What's Your Infidelity IQ? Find Out Now
A 20-question quiz reveals if you're a cheater-in-waiting
. 10: Private flirtatious email conversations are one of the most common paths to infidelity.
Items 11-15 You have crossed into the infidelity zone.
11: Flirting means you are available.
12: The fact that an infatuation extends over a period of time indicates you are feeding it.
13: Romantic kissing is the doorway to sexual infidelity.
14 and 15: How would you like it if your partner did either of these?
Items 16-20 These behaviors destroy relationships.
16: Emotional intimacy is just as serious a threat as physical intimacy.
17: It is nearly impossible to have ongoing sex with someone without forming an attachment.
18: Often used to justify infidelity, this still poses a significant threat.
19: Secrets fan the flames of passion, and are a source of looming stress for the unknowing partner.
20: Though some couples choose this arrangement, it is extremely difficult to maintain over a period of time.
©Pat Love, Ed.D. 2004
Discussion
Actually there are a lot of people who like and participate in threesomes and more regularly and are in serious comitted relationships. It doesn't make you an idiot it makes you an adventurous person who has a partner (or partners) who enjoy this type of stimulation.
Personally I would prefer my husband to choose an attractive woman for a threesome with us...and I have a VERY attractive lover who is a longterm polyfidelitous lover whom we enjoy many varied encounters with. All of us are attractive people and we prefer to actually BE attracted to our sexual partners.
It is right to say that taking time away from your partner or partners with someone else can drain the relationships but it can be worked out as long as you are honest with everyone involved. You have to be disciplined enough to think your way through new relationship energy and continue to nurture and grow your other relationships. It's not too far different than spending time with relatives, friends and with your kids it takes time management, serious self discipline, and boundaries.
You are an idiot Rio. Having sex with someone else is not being loyal to your partner! As much as most men fantasize about threesomes, if in a serious relationship it is better left to fantasy. Why would your ex pick an attractive women to have a threesome with you?? Use your brain genuis. The article is right, if you are attracted to someone, you should keep away from him/her. And spending intimate moments, even if they are only conversations, is getting involved with someone emotionally and drains your actual relationship. It just is not fair. If you are uncertain about your relationship, don't drag the other person around. Do them a favor and let them know how you feel.
None of this means anything. It is the total loyality that counts. That also means being able to allow the other attractive to very attractive friends. One ex I had did the opposite she did want the excitement of threesomes but she chose unattractive women. I came to resent this as a slight on me and what she thought
