The Etiquette of Oral Sex
The ups, downs and in-betweens of oral sex.
If you're giving it, you need to be extremely comfortable with, as biologists say, your partner’s crotch. Conversely, if you're receiving it, you need to be extremely comfortable with your own. The net result can leave one or both partners wanting more, wanting less—or simply wanting to beat their heads against a wall.
"Oral sex is one of the most highly erotic, loving, and satisfying sexual activities you can indulge in," says Dr. Ava Cadell, a sex therapist and the author of The Pocket Idiot's Guide to Oral Sex. "It's part and parcel of being a great lover. So if one person wants it and the other doesn't, it can be a dealbreaker in a relationship."
According to the CDC, about 90 percent of men and women have had oral sex at some point in their lives— but that doesn't mean they continue to have it regularly, or even that they liked it in the first place. The reasons why some folks aren't up on going down are a Freudian's, er, wet dream: People fear it's unhygienic.
Or they dislike the taste. Or they worry their technique is bad. Or they simply find the idea of faces being in places swimsuits cover to be generally unpleasant.
You should never do anything that makes you uncomfortable—but you should do what you can to overcome hang-ups that limit not only your own pleasure, but your partner's as well. And almost any hesitation about oral sex can be solved with a simple explanation or a reasonable compromise.
"If it's a question of cleanliness, you can shower with your partner and get clean together," suggests Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First and He Comes Next. "If a guy feels it's distasteful, he needs to know that the vagina is a self-cleaning ecosystem. By the same token, a woman may want to combine oral with manual stimulation to avoid swallowing, and ask her boyfriend not to thrust if she’s afraid of gagging. You just have to work in slow steps."
Discussion
yes, very yummy! and chocolate...but can be very messy! my hubby says i'm the best c**k sucker ! and i love to do it. he even says he wishes he could show me off to his friends and i would win any dick sucking contest. he is pretty good too but some times a little rough when he has a hairy beard!
Ah,yes. I love to eat my honey. I don't know if it's the aroma or the visual stimulation, or maybe the hormones/pheromones but it makes me absolutely ravenous. It also make lovemaking last a lot longer than just intercourse. I also don't have to hear her begging 'MORE' if I please her that way FIRST. Etiquette? Both must be clean first--but not too squeaky clean. As Napolean use to write to Josephine after battle--"I''m coming home;don't bathe tonight".
All I have to say is if I could live on just eating a woman I would never have to buy food. Performing oral sex on your lover is the most sincere why of being unselfish and submissive to your partner and showing your unconditional love for them.
I have had and been giving oral for as long as I can remember! Ilove the taste and warmth in my mouth and when I get it OMG! love to be gone down on!
Every gal I have been with did swallow with the exception of 2. One Ex and One current. They always make sure I finish, which is nice. But there is something extra you get from the constant suck. I usually scream and moan very loudly. My current friend lets me munch carpet and it tastes so good I'd like to bottle it as a sports drink, for me. Sorry gals, it's like the salad bar...some sweet and some salty.
i just recently started having oral with my baby and before him i never did with a man. i have experimented with women before and i thought it would be similar in taste but it isnt women are more sweet than men does anyone have any advise on how to make your guy sweeter so you dont get sick
Seriously I basically orally pleasure my mate at least once a day.
I know he loves that. It's such a good feeling to see the reactions the looks you get the beauty of sex.
I love it...I am a very sexual person and pleasing my current lover is my top priority. To many vultures out there
willing to do what u are not to take what you have... Keep em happy at home!!!!
I am just what the name says MIlk n Hunnie .. You need me to be complete and I soothe as I go down..
I love it & it is a deal breaker if she is not into it! BOTH WAYS! My motto is, "Show me a man that won't eat his woman & I'll show you a woman I can STEAL!
This is an art. You have to want to do it and girls do read up. Its about being uninhibited. Letting your self go if you are out to please your man, girls education is the key here. Ya know the ole saying"Practice makes perfect." Well this is an art i seek perfection in cuz when I finish my man is speechless and the way it should be. Yes cleaniness is important. Anyone wanting to experience should take that into consideration for their partner. commmon sense dont ya think. Tweety its not about you do me i will do you. I am sure if your good at it, You will never have to ask or think about your turn...:)
A word to the wise, make sure your partner disposes of his/her chewing gum. It does leave a mess.
there is nothing better for an all male, than a woman giving her pleasures in the form of succumbing to swallowing the c*m from someone they love or just wants to please, and please enormously.... this will usually win the heart.Try it , is a simple thing for someone in the mood and wants to please. yes!!!
Giving your man oral sex is the best thing you can do for him. There isnt anything wrong with it, it isnt dirty and you would be putting a smile on his face as well as your own. It brings you closer.
(and that photo of the guy with the melon, not racist. Who doesnt like a cold slice of melon when theres a *hot* subject such as oral sex?)
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I give oral sex, a lot. I don't receive it - I'm not interested. The women I'm with love it and expect it. That's fine. But ladies, if you want oral sex, a word to the wise - please, SHAVE.
Thank you
I give oral stimulation to my man almost everyday. Why? Well I enjoy it, though sometimes it does get tiresome. He claims that he enjoys pleasing me more than he enjoys getting head...but I don't see how that falls in to place when I've given him head for almost hours at a time. Its a great way to spice things up, especially if you have a few tricks up your sleeve.
no camera tricks were needed in The Brown Bunny. The penis was a prosthetic.
Why is there a picture of a black man eating a slice of watermelon on your site? This is a racial stereotype, and I find it highly offensive.
Oral sex is, whether one at first realizes it or not, homosexual by its very nature. I call it "wayward sex" and have written the viewpoint I think God has towards it. Read my webpage at http://www.berkeleyversion.com/homosexuality.htm
i dont' get this whole neuroses bit. what's the big deal.
newbies, i have one word for you: shower. if every thing is clean and smelling fresh, what's not to love.
I've heard of people not liking oral. What's not to like? But I've never actually dated a chick that's not into it. Giving or receiving. To each his own or whatever.
Any man that says he doesnt like oral sex should let my lady give him some!! she is mind boggling fantastic at it!
