If a nap re-energizes you, it can do the same for your relationship. And it’s not just because it gives you a chance to cuddle (or to take other advantage of your proximal horizontality). Napping together is like synchronizing your watches: You reset your internal clocks and wake up in tune with each other. An example: Lauren is usually too type A to “waste” daylight hours sleeping.
On a typical Sunday afternoon, while her boyfriend took a siesta, she’d go for a run. But afterward, with Tim rejuvenated and Lauren winding down, their evening together felt disjointed. When they made it a dual snooze, it was a whole different story. They woke up with the same energy level and a connection that lasted the rest of the day.
Make a splash.
The bath as a seduction scene is almost a cliche. As a friend of ours with an enormous tub for two (yes, he’s a bachelor), points out: “If there’s anything sexier than being naked together, it’s being naked and wet.” But there’s a bigger benefit: A bath for you both means enforced intimacy. You’re stripped down, soaped up, and stuck in a small space for at least as long as it takes for the water to cool.
The situation almost begs for the kind of important discussions that kids, phones, and dirty dishes so easily derail. Anne and her husband of five years have made it a ritual: They were sharing baths when they decided to take jobs in London, to have a second child, and to buy a vacation house. They use their time in the tub to unwind and focus on being a couple. So the next time your plans involve no plans, why not soak, snooze, or relax with that new novel ... together? You’ll turn staying in into something special.