The Pros And Cons Of Relocating For Love


The Pros And Cons Of Relocating For Love
Should you uproot life as you know it for the sake of a relationship?

The couple got married in 2000 and moved to Spain in July 2002, when Gloria, a diplomat, got a post at the Indian Embassy in Madrid. In April 2003, Anil left for a year to do an MBA course. They were together long enough to have a baby girl. Then Gloria was assigned to a post in Argentina, so off they went—Gloria and the baby that is; Anil has stayed in Madrid for his job in finance. They connect by email daily and visit as much as they can. "We'll see each other a few months a year for the next three years," says Anil, matter-of-factly, "but it's not the quantity of time, it's the quality."

Hendrix responds to this adage with caution: "The relationship will change if you don't spend a lot of time together, because everyone changes every day." But Anil, who says he and Gloria always pick up right where they left off, has a cultural explanation for their happy union: They're Indian. "In the part of the world we come from, there's a very low rate of divorce," he says. "Once you are married, you are married for life. That gives us a lot of strength and comfort."


I contemplated whether my husband and I ought to try a transatlantic arrangement, should his job in Europe outlast my patience for language barriers and stroller-hostile airports.

Nah, I think I'll stick it out. I can almost converse with a three-year-old in Spanish now, my son can navigate stairs, and there's something else, that Love mentioned: "Relocating for your partner, when you look at it from five to ten years out, is money in the bank for your relationship. It will increase the stability in your marriage. Gratitude may come later, but it will come; this is not a deed that goes unnoticed."

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