Learn To Flirt Like A Pro
Flirting 101: What works, which celebs do it well and when does it go too far?
Which celebrities are good flirts?
Cameron Diaz, Brittany Murphy, Debra Messing.
What about guys?
Matthew McConaughey, Ashton Kutcher. I would love to know all the things that Demi did when she flirted with Ashton.
Why do you think flirters have a bad reputation?
Because we live in a culture that has a love/hate relationship with anything that's sexual. We love it, we love it, we love it. We condemn it, condemn it, condemn it.
What makes a bad flirt?
A bad flirt is somebody who really puts out a heavy sexual message and then doesn't deliver. You shouldn't promise more than you can deliver. First, do no harm.
So, do you believe in playing hard to get?
I think it can help. It is true, all of those things your mother said to you: "Don't wear your heart on your sleeve." I am also a big believer in: "Chase him until he catches you." My mother said that to me. Her idea was: Set your sights on some guy and chase him, but somehow make it seem to him like he's doing the pursuing.
That is a very Southern idea!
Oh, Southerners can flirt circles around the girls in the Northeast. I think girls in the Northeast are actually handicapped. They are like the anti-flirt, like Ali McGraw's character in Love Story. But that's a kind of flirting.
Who taught you to flirt?
When I was still little and my mother was washing my hair she'd sing, "Diamonds are a girl's best friend." She was very flirty. My mother was married four times.
Wow, so you inherited it.
She always married rich, older guys. They would get sick and die and she would just find another one. She was a major flirt.
Do you think that anyone can learn how to flirt?
Yes, if they want to. It's one of those things people say they want to do. People say they want to quit smoking; they say they want to lose weight; they say they want to learn to flirt. You gotta apply yourself. Some people are definitely more genetically gifted than others.
My sense is that a lot about flirting is intuitive. It's just believing that you are a catch; you are the one who's going walk away; you're the one in control.
It really comes down to a confidence issue. So much of your day-to-day life really works to erode your confidence and that's another reason you need to flirt, to build up your own confidence.
Discussion
For a while, I thought that I couldn't flirt. How wrong I was! There is a flirting type out there for everyone- I just hadn't found mine yet. I'm more of a sarcastic/comedy flirt girl. And now, I've learned how to adapt my flirting to the guy a bit. ;) One step closer to being a pro!!!
I like flirting. And the "dont promise what you cant deliver" is soo true. Best Way I learned to flirt...Working at Hooters as a Server. When your paycheck relies on flirting with your tables you pick up the trade. You have to learn how to judge people by watching the way they act at first and the things they say. I think there's a diferent way to flirt with different types of people. Even if its another girl, not in a "lesbian im hitting on you" kind of way but a way that just makes them feel good. we were taught that most women hate Hooters girls so you have to learn how to flirt them up just as well as a guy because sometimes they're the one tipping you. It's harmless and who doesnt like to be flirted with. Working there was really good training for social skills but not for all people just like any type of learning different people take different things from what they're being taught. Personally for me it was great!
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i totaly agree. i love to flirt any chance i get. it just gives me the confidence boost i need and makes me feel atractive. i love the attention it brings :) even though my friends bag me all the time lol.
Absolutely agree about confidence and flirting. In addition being from the South, flirting is definitely an art we belles have.
As far as this "Typing flirtation is the newest thing that is happening. It takes away that element of who
I agree 100%! I think confidence plays a big role in your ability to flirt, and you're genetically pre-disposed. I'm a gifted flirt, but my sister is not so much, and I learned many more tricks when I moved south for 15 years. Maturity has also helped, I've come into my own!
