What Are The Signs That A Woman Is Being Dishonest?

OK let's be brutal here guys a woman will tell untruths the entire day long if necessary to keep life on an even keel and for the most part society accepts this as a ‘norm’ as friendships can be based on overlooking aspects of truth..ie does my butt look big in this? Lie, Lie, Lie, and then do what women do, refocus on another true aspect, redirect attention to an area that you can be honest and genuine and supportive in.

My guess is though that that’s not the kind of dishonesty that you are interested in. I guess that you are more interested in finding out fast if she is cheating, stealing, or outright criminally deceptive and good for you as the old saying, “a fool and his money are soon parted” brings me to my first indicator that love may not be true. 

Immediate pleas for financial support

Too many industries especially online are built around tender hearts looking for a safe place to harbor and too late discover their fair maiden (or man pretending to be a woman) has set sail with all their worldly goods. If you are being bombarded with requests for financial aid, do some investigating into the truth. Don’t blindly hand over checks or cash, if you wish to help out and can do so then sight and pay the actual bills, otherwise, you won’t just be a bleeding heart- you will be a bleeding bank balance too. Please be sure to have an established relationship that is not purely online before you even get to this point. I trust that you have all the obvious bases covered at the outset of your relationship as in you know where they live, with whom if it’s not you, what they do for work or study, and who their friends are. If not, then they just may not be into you in which case dishonesty may well be a viable option for them. If you do have the bases at least covered and we are talking about an established monogamous relationship with basic agreements of truth and trust let’s continue.

Sudden lack of availability

Relates to both physical proximity and intimacy. You know the score, you decide to call up and surprise your loved one with an impromptu lunch, a quick interlude, or a wicked weekend getaway, only to hear part rushed stories (alibi’s) about why now is not a good time. Once is easily genuine, even twice, and just for the sake of maintaining an otherwise good relationship I can stretch this to a 3rd time however if that’s all in a short space of time and there is no obvious and apparent reason then we are into avoidance. No one likes getting caught in the act and we all do our hardest to avoid having to face the ‘victims’ of our deceptions especially so in the early stages. Beware the women who are seasoned veterans at this game and that is what it is to them, a game of attention, a desperate aching void that needs constant fulfillment, each love-struck fool being called to participate in childish, overtly emotional tug o wars, each allegedly fulfilling a need that only they can fill…or so they are told. These deceptive practices may not be intentional however a woman in need can resort to behavior unbecoming of most ladies.  I recall a friend of mine, let's call him Pete, who was used to seeing his best friend’s car parked outside Pete’s house while he was at work. He knew his wife to be depressed and thought nothing of it until one day he picked up a baby cot on special and decided to drop it home during work hours then discovered his wife’s depression was outright dishonesty as she lay with his previous best friend. Don’t take any of your relationships for granted. If it doesn’t feel right, the odds are your gut is trying to get your heart to listen, the phrase “Love is Blind” has through the eons earned its reputation.

You have been told

You have seen it with your own eyes. What more evidence do you need? Let's face it, for most people who focus on dishonesty, they have a good reason, often it is they who are at fault and hope to deflect some guilt onto the other party somehow and then validate their own poor choices, at least in part to themselves. Signs to look out for however by no means all-inclusive are; regular unexpected outbursts of anger, inability to sit and look you in the eyes while talking intimately, wild accusations that border on the irrational, covert, and suspicious behavior, new underwear and you only see it in the drawer, your other half’s sudden plans with girlfriends you hardly see or know, especially if they involve overnight stays, your sense of unease and things not being ‘right. If you have a ‘bad one’ let them go, easily and effortlessly as trying to make sense of situations that make no sense will only add stress, duress, and loads of future mess to your own life and others.

Rather than looking for signs of dishonesty instead, develop your ability to have ‘honest and open communications’ and this allows others to follow suit even when they may risk your trust. Given that most men would rather have their teeth pulled without Novocaine than sit and have open dialogue, consider it an investment that will expand exponentially and pay the greatest of dividends. Learn to develop a genuine connection, meaning looking into the eyes of your lover (not just all the other good bits) taking some time, and being truly present. The first bonus is her needs will be met, the second bonus is if at any time the relationship does start to take a dive you will be well aware before the seeds of dishonesty are planted and able to address issues as they arise.

Relationship Coach Rose T.